In honor of Valentine’s Day this Friday, we look back on a popular archive from author Lauren Harsch: A simple, four-step guide on how to date, and maybe one day marry, a triathlete.
I dated and then married a top amateur Ironman triathlete. I feel like anyone who has deserves a medal or trophy—we are a strong group of independent people. Here are a few rules I’ve learned along the way that might benefit anyone married to multisport by affiliation and not necessarily personal choice.
Rule #1: Get your own life.
If your partner is a dedicated triathlete, he will spend anywhere from 15 to 25 hours each week training. Let’s also assume that your partner is not a professional triathlete so add on a 40-plus-hour workweek. Doesn’t leave much time for you, does it? Just because you’re not always No. 1 doesn’t mean you should bail on your athlete. In spite of what we’re told in fairy tales, romance novels, chick flicks and on “Oprah,” love ain’t always grand. Long-lasting love is also about compromise and supporting each other’s differences. Of course, you can make yourself and your partner miserable by resenting them, the sport and everything and everyone to do with it, but that doesn’t make much sense, does it?